10 Thoughtful Valentines Gifts for a New Mama
Motherhood can be such a wild ride but one of the lesser talked about elements of motherhood is the loss of your old identity. The transition into becoming a mother is such a journey that it can feel overwhelming, isolating, and all-encompassing. Many new mamas report feeling like they lose themselves entirely. Their whole identity has shifted, their needs are playing second fiddle to their children and their cups are running dangerously close to empty. With Valentine’s day fast approaching, the most important gift we can give to new mamas, is one which makes them feel seen, heard, and valued. So where do you even start?
Whether this is a partner, friend, or new mother herself reading this blog these are my most thoughtful valentines gift ideas this year to help a new mama feel cherished. I have included gifts from a range of budgets for everyone.
1. Dear Motherhood by Emma Heapy
‘A collection of real, raw and romantic poetry and prose about the big little love story that motherhoodtherhood’
This book makes such a wonderful gift. It helped me to feel seen and make sense of all the feelings I had swirling around as a mother. It’s heart-warming, touching, tear-jerking and the most beautiful book for mothers.
2. Cozy Earth Bamboo Bedding Sets
I had never been more excited to get into my bed than when I became a mother. You feel the need for deep rest in your bones. Having the softest most luxurious bedding felt like a little slice of heaven that I could look forward to every day. Lots of brands sell bamboo bedding so shop around but I promise you bamboo bedding is something you won’t regret.
3. A Subscription Box
My sister signed me up for a self-care subscription box to start arriving from the month I was due. It was the most thoughtful gift I could have wished for. I really enjoyed getting my boxes and having a few little products to try, lots of affirmation books or journals helped lift my spirits. There are lots of subscription boxes to choose from, so pick one that you feel is a good fit for the new mother because then each time it comes they feel thought of and special. A vital need for new mothers!
4. A Massage or Treatment
Any type of massage feels wonderful and relaxing but I recently had a massage from a masseuse who specialized in women’s massage and it was hands down the best massage I have ever had. It was so specific to me and nourishing that I felt spacious and light and calm for days afterward. Highly recommend doing a bit of research and finding a massage therapist who specializes in this field!
5. a clothing voucher
One of the more bizarre feelings in early motherhood is this distance you feel from your identity before you had children and for me, this included my clothes. My body had changed, I had changed and my clothes just felt awkward and uncomfortable. A clothes voucher to spend on themselves is such a nice way to make someone feel special, to help them feel good in what they are wearing, and to encourage them to spend something on themselves.
6. the non-budget friendly product
Having one small luxurious item in your self-care routine can lift you and help you feel like you are nourishing yourself. Feeling valued and cherished and refilling a mother’s cup is so important in helping them to stay mentally well and able to give in the way they are required to.
7. a diy home spa box
Be creative. Indulge her senses. A new robe for the bath, candles. bath salts, a diffuser, music, and chocolates. The aim is to help the new mother feel so cherished she feels like she is walking in the clouds.
8. a new lounge set
Valentine’s day for new mothers can more often than not look like watching tv in your pajamas. Why not feel a million dollars in a new lounge set that’s comfy and makes you feel good?
9. for partners - organizing & taking ownership of little pockets of time for connection
This could be dates at home, carving out time to listen and hear your partner. New mothers carry so much of the mental load that feeling like someone else is taking care of an important element of the new dynamic can be the best gift of all. The gift of a commitment to a monthly date night is taken care of by you.
10. a photo album, book, or memorabilia
Putting together a selection of photos is thoughtful, caring, and loving. It places the new mama as the star of the show and shows her off in all her new roles. Being celebrated and valued helps to fill someone’s cup and fulfills their need for cherishing. This is a lovely keepsake to be able to look at on the harder days when you are struggling with remembering who you are and what you are capable of.
The best gift that you can give someone is something that makes them feel thought about, cared about, seen, heard, and valued. I hope that some of these ideas help you make someone feel special this Valentine’s Day. Mothers are superheroes and they deserve to be cherished!
