Temperament is a huge piece of the baby sleep puzzle (and feeding and play and everything else!) and it blows my mind that NO ONE talks about it! In this post I’ll discuss:
Temperament is a child’s emotional and behavioral style of responding to the world.
The study of temperament can be dated back to ancient Greece, and there have been many models and theories since then. It has been extensively researched.
When discussing babies, temperament refers to innate neurophysiologically-based characteristics of infants, including mood, activity level, and emotional reactivity, noticeable soon after birth.
Much of what know about temperament today dates back to the research of Thomas and Chess and their landmark longitudinal study in the 1950s.
The 3 Types and 9 Traits
In their work, Thomas and Chess identified three main temperament types: easy going, slow to warm, and “difficult.” The “difficult” temperament type also goes by other names such as high needs, highly sensitive, orchid or spirited.
In addition to the three types, Thomas and Chess also identified 9 traits or characteristics that can make up a child’s behavioral style.
The 9 traits are adaptability, persistance, mood, intensity, activity level, regularity, distractibility, approach/ withdrawl, and sensitivity. Each person will fall on somewhat of a spectrum for each trait. These traits are important to know about because while they aren’t “good or bad” they can impact how your child sleeps and interacts with their world.
How Does Temperament Impact Sleep for Babies?
Temperament traits can impact sleep for babies in a variety of ways, for example:
A baby who is high in regularity may thrive with a schedule and wake windows, but a baby low in this trait will need a more go-with-the-flow approach.
A baby who is high in energy level may need lots of sensory input throughout the day and things like rough and tumble in the bedtime routine.
A child high in sensory sensitivity may require a long time to wind down before bed, or may need the conditions and room to be “just so.”
A child high in persistence may cry or scream for HOURS if parents attempt sleep training- they won’t give up.
A child high in intensity may have a very difficult time with any “self soothing” or self-regulation, and may go from 0-60 if you don’t get to them. They don’t just “fuss.”
How to Tell if Your Child is Highly Sensitive
If you’re wondering about your child’s temperament and you think they are highly sensitive, there are some things you might notice.
Being highly sensitive means you are more likely to feel and experience things more deeply than the average person. A highly sensitive person (Hsp) is thought to have an increased or deeper central nervous system sensitivity to physical, emotional, or social stimuli.
Highly sensitive people are thought to make up roughly 20% of the general population, likely due to both environmental and genetic factors. hsp’s may have strong emotional reactions, be sensitive to sensory stimuli, and have a rich inner world.
Children who cry easily, become overstimulated quickly, have difficulty with transitions, have sensory sensitivities or who are highly empathetic/ distressed when others are in pain may be highly sensitive.
How well or easily a child (or adult) sleeps partially depends on their temperament type and how each trait is expressed. Highly sensitive children often need much more or much less sleep than peers, take longer to settle for sleep, or have unique preferences for how they are supported to sleep.
How to Support Your Child’s Temperament
Learning about your child’s temperament type and where they fall on each trait can be hugely beneficial to supporting their sleep. For example, if you know your baby is sensory sensitive, you may:
limit scratchy or hot pajamas, clothing with tags etc.
incorporate baby massage or stretching into the bedtime routine
avoid bath time at night if it’s overly stimulating or upsetting
take notice of whether or not white noise helps or hinders sleep
incorporate movement for vestibular input throughout the day and at bedtime (rocking, bouncing, nursing etc.)
try rough & tumble play in the evening, then a calming wind-down routine
Having this understanding of your child can also provide the groundwork towards establishing “goodness of fit.”
Goodness of fit means how well the child’s temperament matches the parent’s temperament, and this is hugely important to your child’s self-esteem and to your relationship overall. What matters most is goodness of fit. Just like babies and children, all of us are unique in our own personalities and temperament styles, both as individuals and as parents.
Caregivers who educate themselves about how babies’ temperaments and seek to understand their own unique baby can affect the relationship between themselves and their babies positively. They learn how to respond to their baby’s cues, and how to modify their routines and environments so as to better fit the child’s natural temperaments, in the process, making life easier for everyone. For more on this check out a great PDF here.
Learn about how temperament and sensory needs impact sleep, feeding, and so much more at my next workshop! I discuss all of this in depth to help you determine your child’s temperament type and where they fall on each trait, what that means for what type of sleeper they are and the support they need, plus give you ideas for bedtime routines, games, etc. that will help you get better sleep ASAP!👇
And you DON'T have to sacrifice your values, ignore your instincts, or force yourself to follow a method you don't align with just to get your baby back to sleep.
I’m here to help you create a restful, sustainable sleep environment that honors both your baby’s needs AND your own (without the stress OR the guilt!) because, no, you don’t have to choose between the two.
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